29 September 2014

Numbers Don't Matter. YOU Matter.

I have been so worried and caught up in the numbers game lately. I absolutely cringe every time someone asks me "How is your book doing? How many copies have you sold so far?" (Seriously, guys. Don't ask things like this. I don't ask you how much money you made with your last paycheck.) Every time someone asks this question, I feel like I need to defend my worth. Like I'm only valuable if I'm doing BETTER than everyone else. (By the way, I'm fine. I've sold more copies of my book than some have and less than others. Just like every other author on the planet, throughout the entire history of books.)

This weekend, I hit a severe low, however, as I started letting the numbers game get to me. What if "fine" isn't good enough? What if people stop seeing me as worthwhile because I'm not THE BEST? And how do I even measure that status? I've had overwhelmingly-positive reviews, and I get emails and private messages regularly from readers who say they were touched by my book. Is that more or less important than hitting #1 on a Bestseller List?

And then, Saturday night, I went to the General Women's Broadcast of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. This talk, by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf (2nd counselor in the first presidency of the church) was exactly what I needed to hear:

The entire talk is worth watching. (You can find the full talk here.) I especially needed to hear the part (right before the clip shown above) where he said, "God knows of your successes. Though they may seem small to you." - Because I matter to Him. Whether I've sold 1 book or 1 million, that's the only measurement that really matters. 

 And you matter too. 
Don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise!


  1. Love President Uchtdorf! And this post is so very true.

    1. He's one of my favorites. I always feel like he's speaking just to me. :)

      (I still read or listen to his Forget Me Not talk several times a month! https://www.lds.org/general-conference/2011/10/forget-me-not?lang=eng)

  2. I understand your discomfort re the usual "How's your book doing?" But it's just a way of expressing interest in you and a hope that the book - and by extension, you - are doing well. We all cringe a little but the question is well-intended, don't you think? xox, AA Nice blog.

    1. Yes, I'm positive the question is well-intentioned. And I appreciate the concern and interest from all who ask (though I do cringe extra hard when people ask "No, seriously, how many ACTUAL copies have you sold so far?")

      The point of my post was simply the realization that the numbers don't determine my worth. :)